Archive for July, 2010


Lynn’s Tips

Thursday, July 1st, 2010


Step 1 To Begin Envisioning Your Wedding Ceremony: 

During a quiet time at home, after a home-cooked meal (or ordered-in), put on some gentle and inspiring music. Turn off the phone. Get comfortable, sitting next to each other. Sit in silence. Let your minds and hearts go where they will.

After two minutes tell each other what you have experienced during the silence.

Now take some time in turn to talk about:

  • Your favorite colors
  • Your favorite flower
  • Your special song/lyrics
  • A book you love
  • A memorable quote
  • An unforgettable film
  • Your earliest shared memory

Jot down notes about what was said.

Have a hug and enjoy the rest of your day.


Get comfortable with photographs of your child spread out on a table. Look closely at each one. For each make a written note of a single word that describes what you are noticing or feeling. Study the words. Now try to write a letter or poem to your child. Keep what you have created to give to your child when he/she can read.


Ask yourself:

  • What am I celebrating/ritualizing?
  • Why am I celebrating/ritualizing this?
  • With whom do I want to share this ceremony?
  • What place of meaning would I want to celebrate at?
  • Is there a significant date or season in which I want to celebrate?
  • What type of music might accompany this event?
  • Are there any rituals I specifically want to incorporate?
  • Are there readings that I want included?
  • Do I want certain meaningful objects around me?
  • What am I seeking by having this ceremony?

Smile at yourself in the mirror and jot down your answers.


First thing to do: Congratulate yourself!!! You have recognized that something(s) in your life is going off course. You have made a deliberate decision to seek professional help and that is truly to be applauded. Life in the modern age is so darn complex and fast that sometimes it’s hard to catch your emotional breath all by yourself. Fortunately, there are many caring and talented therapists ready to hear your story, your woes and help you find your way to what you want for yourself.

When seeking a therapist it is most desirable to get a recommendation from a trusted friend, family member, mentor or medical professional. Try to get a few names and spend the time and money interviewing two or three therapists. I guarantee that your intuition, your gut will tell you which one to choose. If none of them appeal, try out more and remember that you are in charge of this choice.

Deciding to go into therapy and the therapeutic relationship may seem a bit daunting at the start. That is a normal feeling. It also may be, for you, a welcome relief. I recommend giving your therapy at least a month of sessions before you think about walking out the door.

Be patient with yourself. Subtle, slow and steady growth is the one that sticks. If you take one step forward and then two steps backwards, do not fret. As you do the work, make the commitment and live out what you are learning new about yourself, you will find progress. It is the surest investment out there. I wish you the best!

–Rev. Lynn

Lynn’s Meals4Mandela Fundraiser

Thursday, July 1st, 2010

Benefiting: Friends of Ikamva Labantu

Please join me in supporting this unique and worthwhile campaign: MEALS4MANDELA. This initiative supports the orphans and most vulnerable children of South Africa. It enables each child by way of healthy nourishment to not only survive, but to truly thrive and lead the meaningful, happy lives all children deserve. It is all in honor of International Nelson Mandela Day – celebrating Mandela’s legacy of justice, resilience, love for mankind and above all-hope.

In 2006, I had the unforgettable opportunity of volunteering with Ikamva Labantu, the NGO working in South Africa’s most impoverished townships for over 50 years – that supports over 2,000 orphans and vulnerable children with all the care and support they need to flourish. Ikamva was founded by an extraordinary woman named Helen Lieberman, a dear friend of mine and human rights hero. As a young woman in 1960s South Africa, she risked her life and safety to begin working in the township communities on her own. Her work has blossomed into one of the largest and longest standing nonprofit organizations in South Africa today.

I experienced first hand the burgeoning self-reliance developing in the townships of Cape Town. All generations were looked after by one another, creating close-knit communities of caring and productivity. I was truly inspired and I know you would all be too.

So please, I hope you will join me by supporting this vital campaign however you can – $1 will provide a nutritious meal to a beautiful child. Can you think of a better use of your resources?? (All donations are 100% tax deductible!) We want to provide 10,222 meals – one for every day Mandela spent behind bars.

Thank you for your help.

-Rev. Lynn